Aaaah Halloween! My favorite holiday of the year. A day when people are encouraged to express another side of themselves, to get creative in their dress and to be someone or something else for a whole night. A day to celebrate the dark side of things. Mmmmmm, yummy.
Of course, I get to dress up and explore another side of me every week in pole dancing class. I get to put on different clothes and shoes and discover what they do to my body and how I respond to them. Recently I bought a pair of hot shorts with a zipper that goes all the way around my butt and four garters sewn in for attaching stockings. Except I don’t attach any stockings – I just let the garters swing and tap against my butt while I move. Occasionally I will pull on one while I slowly circle my hips just to feel the tension between my hand and my hip. I can’t explain to you how deliciously and insanely hot I feel in those shorts.
Clothing has a way of changing our perceptions and can influence how we feel about ourselves. What we are wearing is often one of the first things to be noticed by others and clothing is used across cultures to identify different social circles, tribal affiliations, and rank. In Western cultures women tend to pay especially close attention to clothing and we are also quick to assign meaning to the clothing another woman chooses to wear. Halloween is the one time of year when it is more or less permissible to dress any damn way we please without repercussions. Pole dancing class also gives us this gift.
We talk a lot about pole dancing being empowering for women. Part of that empowerment comes from the freedom we have to play with our sensuality and to express it. But part of it is also the freedom we have to adorn our bodies and to express our sensuality through dress and costume.
Whether you are drawn to tribal, jungle cat clothing a la Zoraya Judd or the rockabilly bad girl sexiness that Alethea Austin is famous for, you know
when a piece of clothing beckons to you. The right outfit will tease something out of you and your audience and will help tell your story.
And, let’s be honest, it’s just plain fun to dress up! My favorite part of ballet class when I was little was the costumes we got to wear for the recitals. And my leotard and ballet shoes. Many women who grew up taking dance classes get to revisit this same pleasure today in their pole dance classes. And aren’t we lucky! Happy Halloween!